Ask Amy: I wasn’t invited to a family wedding but they want to stay at my place

Dear Amy: I have helped out my sister’s children over the years. (She is a si🤡ngle mom.)

I’ve providedꦜ vacations every summer, school clothes at the end of summer, hosted them for many Christmas breaks and making sure they had presents, and helping by giving money to their mom.

Now they’re grown.

The youngest is getting married soon in my city.

The wedding is smaꦰll, and I did not make t⛄he guest list.

I am disappointed bu𒉰t I understand that they have a tight budget.

The problem is my sister has asked to stay ♓with me during the weekend of festivit🍌ies and I feel like it is a very insensitive request and rubbing my nose in the fact that I was not invited.

Right or wro𒈔ng I feel like it would be hard to watch the weekend of wedding festivities and not be included. How do I respond?

– Upset Aunt

Dear Upset: You have been a very generous fa♚mily member, but this does not guarantee a return on your investment. I’m sorry you were not included in this celebration, and I can understand why this feels like a snub.

You can say “no” to your sister, but I think you should let her stay in your place and during this time you should do something special for you🐟rself. Plan your own adventure out of town.

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